Building Stronger Bonds: The Power of Admitting When We’re Wrong

By Felicia Ford, Executive Director, Freddie Ford Family Foundation

Parent kneeling to talk to a young girl.

As a parent of a child with autism, I’ve learned that some of the most powerful lessons in connection don’t come from what we teach—they come from what we’re willing to model. One of the most transformative tools I’ve discovered in building a strong, trusting relationship with my child is something simple, humbling, and surprisingly hard for many adults:

The ability to admit when I’m wrong.

It sounds small, doesn’t it? But in our homes, especially when raising children and teens with autism, this one skill can change the entire dynamic of communication and emotional safety.

Why Admitting Mistakes Matters

Our kids watch everything. Even when they can’t express it, even when their communication looks different from what we expect, they’re learning from how we handle our own emotions and behavior.

When we admit we’re wrong—whether it’s raising our voice, making an assumption, acting out of frustration, or misreading a situation—we teach our child:

• It’s okay to make mistakes.

• It’s safe to communicate openly.

• Everyone is still worthy of respect, even in conflict.

Children and teens with autism often navigate a world that demands a lot of correction from them—how to communicate, how to cope, how to socialize, how to regulate. Imagine the impact when we are the ones saying, “I shouldn’t have said that,” or “I misunderstood. I’m sorry.”

It shifts the balance. It reassures them. It builds trust.

How This Helps Their Development

When you admit your mistakes, you create an environment where communication is not only welcomed—it’s safe.

Here’s what I’ve seen:

1. It models self-advocacy.

Kids who see adults own their mistakes are more likely to speak up when they’re confused, overwhelmed, or hurt. It reduces fear of getting in trouble and increases their confidence to express themselves.

2. It reduces anxiety.

When parents repair misunderstandings, it signals to the child that relationships are fixable. This is huge for children and teens who may struggle with transitions, emotional regulation, or social interpretation.

3. It builds emotional literacy.

Admitting you’re wrong gives language and structure to handling conflict. It teaches kids the words—and the courage—to do the same.

4. It strengthens long-term connection.

Even when communication is difficult, the relationship grows stronger. They learn that you’re on their team, always willing to listen and adjust.

How to Start (Even If It Feels Uncomfortable)

You don’t need a big speech. Small, consistent moments make the biggest difference.

Try phrases like:

“I misunderstood. Thank you for explaining.”

“I shouldn’t have said it that way. I’m sorry.”

“I reacted too quickly. Let’s start over.”

“I didn’t listen the way I should have. Can we try again?”

These simple admissions can soften tense moments, open the door to honest dialogue, and help your child see you as a safe place—not just a parent who sets expectations, but one who models growth.

A Final Word

Parenting any child is a journey filled with trial and error. Parenting a child with autism adds layers of complexity, joy, learning, and self-reflection. We won’t always get it right—and that’s okay. What matters is our willingness to repair, reconnect, and model humility and emotional safety.

Our kids don’t need perfection.

They need honesty.

They need grace.

They need connection.

And sometimes, they need to hear us say, “I was wrong, and I’m here to make it right.”

Let’s keep building those bridges—one honest moment at a time.

Disclaimer:

This blog post reflects personal opinion and experience and is not intended as medical, psychological, or therapeutic advice. For concerns about communication or family relationships, it is always best to consult a licensed counselor, therapist, or other qualified professional.